Top 3 Reasons We Fall In Love

Hani Henry, associate psychologist and chair of the Department of Sociology, Anthropology, Psychology and Egyptology, AUC, said that Robert Sternberg's psychological theories cover the most common reasons people fall in Love, namely intimacy, passion, and dedication.


A basic friendship is a relationship that involves a person falling in love with another person for intimate reasons. It lacks commitment and passion. Henry stated that intimacy is more than just a close connection with someone. It can also be used to enhance self-esteem. "Sometimes can be self-serving. Everyone needs to feel loved, cared for, and respected. Women need to feel their femininity while men desire their masculinity.

A perfect example of intimacy captured is Adele's Hi. Adele, in the chorus of the song, calls her ex-boyfriend to vent her grief about their relationship. She says that she hasn’t been able to heal herself after so many years. "Her lyrics are magical and speak for a lot of people who want to have an emotional connection with anyone or a short-term relationship," he said.


It is normal to fall in love with someone because we feel strong feelings or desire for them. Passionate love develops from feelings that lead to sexual attraction and romantic interest. "When you see someone you like, you are captivated by something that draws you to that person," explained Henry. "The attraction is physical, and there is a fascination with the hair, eyes and body."

Infatuation is a feeling of love that develops without intimacy or commitment. People are attracted to one another and develop a sense of lust. Some people see the person they love as a kind of object. You can be with someone for years and don't feel there is commonality between you and that person," he said.


Complete love requires commitment. "People who seek commitment want stability and a healthy relationship," he said. "People who seek only commitment can be unable to find basic friendship and sexual attraction.

Henry said that in modern times young adults are more interested than ever in objects and relationships. He explained that objectification is a result of consumerism. " know more becomes, the less interest people have in commitments. Some youth are more concerned with impressing people they don’t care about. So everything needs to be consumed, even relationships with people."

Love Outside the Triangular Theory

Sternberg's love theory can be understood by anyone. But we all have our own reasons for falling madly in love. Your reason for falling madly in love does not necessarily have to be explained by science. Henry stated that some personal needs could include the fear of being alone or social peer pressure, fulfillment, or religious values.

Regardless of what psychology may say about love and how it affects us, we define who we really are by the type of love that we choose. We all have our own unique ways of understanding what makes us happy, and what fulfills our human desires. "Some people are caught with a need that meets each dimension of the triangle and they can't give up on two because of the different needs they get. Love can be complex.

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